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We live in a society where jobs and titles define people's personality. A job could be referred to as someone's source of income. And some are heavier than others on the societal scale of perception and this goes ad far as weighing the personality of people based on their jobs. People's contribution and impact to society are underestimated because of what they do for a living and not the substance they are made of. Some people are more than their jobs and their level of education, but judgement is passed on them based on positions and titles rather than the purity of their hearts. A job being a means of making end meet serves the primary purpose of providing for the basic needs of the body. Most people don't do what they yearn for so they settle for what would at least feed them and pay for the rents and bills. Here's the thing, no one would climb on your back if you don't bend and permit them to. By that, I mean don't let the perception of society get ...

It is better to win control over yourself than to win control over nations. Those are the words of the wise King Solomon in regards to self-control. Self-control is that guiding force which directs our actions towards destructive or constructive aims. Majority of man’s grief comes about through lack of self-control. There is no one today known as “great” who does not have a mastery of self and that is what makes them the bosses and boss ladies. To develop and master the habit of self-control, we have to master our thoughts for self-control is principally a matter of thought-control. We are the products of our very own thoughts. When you decide that goodness and greatness run the production line in your mind, the results manifested in you are goodness and greatness. However, I am afraid to say the same is true with mediocrity and frustration. The beginning of our journey to develop and master the habit of self-control would be marked by the mastery of thre...

In search of motivation of any sort, we always turn to our mates or older persons or those we consider to have been there before. In our pursuit of motivation, we don’t see what we have right in front of us in the kids we have running, playing and crying around us day in day out. 1) Never stop searching. Stay curious, stay stupid. Search beyond. 2) Never be scared of making mistakes. Perfection comes with time. Just like a kid trying to make the first steps in walking. 3) Be brave. Kids always get into situations and places no one thought they could and that is because they never thought about the opinion of anybody. They just kept going. 4) Dream big. Kids dream beyond. Dreaming big is the first step to doing something big. So people remember to keep it simple and keep it real. The December promo would be for this Canadian based Cameroon artist Remiray who drops the video of his single on the 19th of December. Do well to follow the link for your enjoyment .  My Lady by ...

Comparing yourself to others is one of the meanest things we could do to ourselves as it is a self destructive habit which we cultivate and nourish to kill us in the not so far future. The immediate consequence is the generation of negative feelings within and most probably outside of us. One of the most obvious of such feelings is jealousy. And it is my believe most of us would identify with that whether we admit it or not. No matter the situation, there is always a way out and considering this issue of comparing ourselves with others, we would look into some of the ways out of this mean and self destructive habit. Treat others with kindness: in your thoughts, words and actions, treat others with kindness, fairness and respect. The way we behave, talk and think of others, has an effect on the way we perceive our own selves. When we judge, we also judge ourselves and nothing good comes from being judgemental. When we love others, we love ourselves. It is based on this philosophy w...

Okay people this is written by one of my friends and I believe it would do us some good if we all try to kill the Blackman time #BMT phenomenon and be prompt for all programmed activities. ATTENTION CAMEROONIANS - STOP "BLACKMAN" TIME!!! I believe that one of the reasons why we are backwards in almost everything is this NONSENSE of " Blackman Time ". It is one of the biggest drivers of inefficiency and ineffectiveness! Please, my people, being late is not fashionable, it is downright RUDE and DISRESPECTFUL! And it ends up creating a chain effect which makes everyone else late and waste their time! What amazes me most is that the people in the diaspora have learned everything else but have refused to give up the "tradition" of late coming. Even abroad, Cameroonians are still late for everything! A life where you are always late is an unprogrammed and unfocused life and success will usually always elude you while you blame it on an uncle in the vil...

Last week, I deprived myself of some great deal of happiness. Not consciously though, so hey don't see me as weird. During this period of self denied happiness, I had this habit of over thinking or to say worrying about everything most especially the lil things. I came across this article How to Stop over thinking everything by Henrik Edberk of the Positivity Blog. It was very helpful and I would share with you what I believe to be the major Keys to stop worrying. Quend c’est tros, c’est laid, same applies to over thinking which is hardly ever a constructive habit. Over thinking small issues might actually make them grow. We over think the positivity of things until they are apparently positive no more. You might be asking what happens when you over think the negative aspects of things? They just get worst! This habit of over thinking steals the happiness of the moment and it also makes us stand still in life as it renders us incapable of making intelligent decisio...

Fear is one of the everyday phenomenons we do encounter in life. No one can boost of never encountering fear in any of its many facets at one point in life. The source of the fear might me misty and not clearly understood but we still encounter it. When we encounter fear, there are two things involved; you could yield to fear or the fear yields to you. What's it gonna be? Some years ago I used to fear failing in some subjects in school and underperforming and it so happened all my fears were confirmed. What I feared failing I failed and as a consequence I underperformed. I also feared loosing some close friends and behold I did loss them. I am certain you would have your own experiences with fear which when you feared something was to happen that thing eventually happened. It sucks right? I was tired of being spellbound and manipulated by fear so I had to break loose and free. It is said the first step in conquering fear is to find out the origin and kill it. Just like unwant...

A couple of years back, I was the type of person who when I had issues would disclose it to almost just anyone who would offer me a listening ear. This character trait has been carried along for quiet sometime and I came to realize that it never helped me in getting my issues resolved. This frustration of talking to people and having no resolution to my issues taught me some lessons which I would collectively refer to as the ESSENCE OF "SECRECY" which we shall look into subsequently. # The first thing I realized was, when you share your problems with people, you expose your weaknesses and you give then reason to perceive you as weak, and there is no respect for the weak. You also give them the opportunity to exploit you based on your problems. # you  appear as a nuisance to your audience. What you might consider a problem, might not be seen as a problem by your audience. So do yourself the favour and shut it. In the midst of issues, deal with it for you have what it takes...

A day is made of two distinct parts; day time and night time. Day time is followed by night and night is proceeded by day and that's the cycle of time. Life too, is made up of two distinct parts; good and bad. Good fortunes are and would always be followed by bad fortunes which in turn would always be followed by good fortunes, just as night would always follow day. That is the cycle of life. Just as no normal person would emerge from the night phase stronger and more refreshed for the activities of the new day, so to as no normal man would arise from failure without being stronger and wiser from adversity. Adversity is a phase of life and what you make if it would impact the good phase of life. It is a blessing in disguise, take it as such and live a happy life. I hope you did enjoy the post. And as I would always say, sharing is caring so feel free to share this on any possible platform,and I look forward to reading your comments. Go and conquer for you are a conqueror!!! Pos...

Everyday in life, from the moment when we are born to the moment when we cease living or existing, we do encounter various setbacks. Everyone does, there is no exception to that. Failure, temporal defeat and challenges are an integral part of our lives which either make or break us. But few people know know that every form of adversity or failure brings with it the seed of an equivalent advantage. No wonder they say "the tougher the battle, the bigger the victory." that is so because as large as you see your adversity to be, within it lies a seed of advantage with potential of being as bigger as the adversity or even bigger depending what you make of it. It is said, the strong one is not the one who does not fall down,  but the strong one is the one who stands up after falling down. If you don't fall down, it is most probable you are already down. We all obey the law of gravity. Had it been people were void of the ignorance and had a deeper understanding of failure t...

When we were born, we couldn't say the words of our languages or write them down or do the things now do with relative ease and perfection. But as the days burn into months and subsequently into years, you become better and better and perfect with time. Be mindful  for tomorrow you could be more perfect than you are today for perfection goes with time. Posted via Blogaway

If you think it is possible, then it is. If you think it is impossible, then it is impossible. Most of what we see and believe to be possible today, were seen to be impossible yesterday. So what you see to be impossible today, Would be possible tomorrow. NOTHING IS I POSSIBLE WITH TIME. Posted via Blogaway

Why do some people pray so fervently and don't get the answers to their prayers and others make a simple prayer and get even more than they asked for? For the church goers who jump and leap from one church to another, I ask what is your motive? Before going to church A, that was because you believed prayers were answered there but then, you drifted to church B and you would soon exhaust all possible options. You can receive the answer to your prayers wherever you are, it all depends on you, it all depends on your faith. It depends on you expecting and receiving what you hope(pray) for, which is the absence of all possible forms of negative thoughts in relation to what to aspire having. Claim what you hope for, for you are master of your self and Captain of your soul Posted via Blogaway

It's all about being definite, 60 seconds make a minute, 365 days make a year. There's a definite distance to be covered from one location to another. There's a definite surface area covered by towns, nations, hills and oceans. And the principle for being definite is the basic natural principle on which our lives operate. When wishing, dreaming or setting goals or objectives, you should be definite, without which it is all A waste of time. We should operate and live our lives With definiteness of purpose and definite aims so as to make meaning of our time.