3 Types of Friends (Be Careful Who You Share Your Dreams With!)

types of friends

We all need a good friend!

Friends are one of the most important and one of the least understood aspects of our lives. When it comes to happiness, our friends are a major key. Our friends affect and influence us in more ways than we realize, they play a part in determining our sense of self and the direction of our lives. Whether we like it or not, our friends have shaped who we are today. We are products of friends who are no longer our friends.

Based on the influence our friends can have on us and on achieving  our goals and objectives in life, it is of primordial importance for us to understand the type of friends we have. Knowledge of our type of friends guides us on how we relate with people, especially when it comes to sharing our life's plans and dreams with them. Bishop T.D. Jakes, one of the world’s most revered mastermind shares with us 3 types of friends; Confidants, Constituents and Comrades.

1) Confidants 

You have very few confidants. Confidants are the people who love you unconditionally and are there for you in the ups and downs and when you are right or wrong. They are the people you can share anything with and they are intimately intertwined in your life. They are committed to you and without them you can't reach your purpose in life.
You have to have someone you can open up to in your inner circle. Someone with whom you can talk to with no fear of judgment. They know your fears and you are comfortable being around them, you don't have to change your behavior.
Feed your confidants with you, because if you start starving them of you, they wither and die. Confidants live and breath off their relationship with you.
When you have 1 or 2 people who can be there for you then you don't need everyone to be there for you.
best friends, confidants

2) Constituents  

These are your friends who are not into you but what you are for. They are not committed to you but to the cause and mission. As long as you are for what they are for, they are with you, but they would leave you if someone else offers them a quicker way to get the results.
They are just like confidants and if you are not careful especially when broken you would mistaken confidants with constituents. They all pose to be the same. The main distinguishing factor is their commitment. While confidants are committed to you, constituents are committed to your cause/mission.
If you confuse constituents and confidants, you would be heartbroken when they leave. Some people come to get you to the next destination in life, so they come and go.
work friends, constituents

3) Comrades

Comrades are the people who are neither for you nor what you are for but they are against what you are against. They would team with you to fight a common enemy and once victory is achieved, they are gone. They would only be with you until victory is accomplished.
The Pharisees and Sadducees hated each other for years, but they united against a common enemy when Jesus came along. You just have to do what you have to do. And never should you confide in a comrade because when the fight is over, they would use what you told them to kill you. And when such a friend betrays you, don't cry about the betrayal because their commitment was to the fight against a common enemy and not to you.
comrades, friends come and go

Expect the constituents and comrades to leave you after a while. Don't be upset when they don't react to your dreams the way you expect them to because they were never really with you in the first place.

Be careful then, who you share your dreams with. If you share your dreams with your constituent, they would desert you and try to fulfill the dreams without you. If you tell it to your comrades, they won't support you because they were never for what you were for anyway.

Nothing just happens! When people walk away from you, let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anyone who left. They leave because they are not joined to you. Let them go! Keep going and them go!

 Hopefully this has been an eyeopener to the type of friends you are relating with and it is going to help improve your relationships. If you enjoyed this, do well to share with someone who  needs to read this


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