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It takes 20 years to become an overnight success The struggle takes place in the farm. The mango tree growing at a slow and steady pace must compete against the wild grass which grows out of nowhere. Both plant species are out there in the wild and must follow the rule of the jungle; Survival of the fittest. Let the stronger specie win the race of life. Years later, the mango tree would be standing strong above the wild grass. It would spread out and bear fruits. Whereas, the grass dies season in and season out. With the farmer’s hatred for grass, he can’t help but smile as they perish. So what does mango tree and grass have to do with your life and success? Your answer in 4 words;  “Sustained success takes time.” The mango tree represents the sustained success. It doesn’t just appear on the stage of life out of nowhere. In the first years, it spreads all of its energy establishing a healthy tap root system, digging deep into the groun...

We all need a good friend! Friends are one of the most important and one of the least understood aspects of our lives. When it comes to happiness, our friends are a major key. Our friends affect and influence us in more ways than we realize, they play a part in determining our sense of self and the direction of our lives. Whether we like it or not, our friends have shaped who we are today. We are products of friends who are no longer our friends. Based on the influence our friends can have on us and on achieving  our goals and objectives in life, it is of primordial importance for us to understand the type of friends we have. Knowledge of our type of friends guides us on how we relate with people, especially when it comes to sharing our life's plans and dreams with them. Bishop T.D. Jakes, one of the world’s most revered mastermind shares with us 3 types of friends; Confidants, Constituents and Comrades. 1) Confidants   You have very few confidants. Confidants a...

  Your mates are making it in life, they are ahead of you though you were all at the same level. You just can't phantom how that's possible. You work equally as hard as them and even harder than some yet you are still lagging behind them on success lane, or so it seems. With the notion of you falling behind on your achievement even though you work as hard as those who are successful you don't do things as you used to. You step up your game plan. You use alternative measures. You change your lane. You do things different. But you are still behind. Then you get frustrated. You get disappointed. You are blue and depressed. All because you are not having the results. You are still behind. Maybe you should give up. Maybe the accounting or the medicine shit just ain't your thing. Maybe you could change to banking and finance or engineering. That's the temptation. Because you are behind, You feel it's not your thing. You feel maybe if you change the ball from ...

Grow your wealth You want to be as wealthy as your idols, enjoying the comfort and luxury money can buy  and having the admiration of peers and respect of your community. But you know you haven’t got a chance in hell of seeing that kind of success unless you get an amazing amount of money and stay rich over the long haul. Sure, you get the apparently comfortable pay of your job or jobs, but it’s not like you have enough money to dress better or live better than you have been living 5 years ago. You worry that you’re not improving in life especially your financial life. You worry that your efforts don’t resonate deeply with savings, but you’ll be damned if you can figure out the magic formula. It gets worse, much, much worse. You try to step up your game plan but you instead step up your debts. You are fighting in multiple fronts, to keep up with life and deal with your healthy debts. You end up poorer than you were at the beginning. And the truth is, unles...

"The thing about sex with many people is, it starts to lose value after a while. You meet a woman in the morning, you have a conversation during which some chemistry is realized. You hang out, have lunch and supper together and you spend the night together. Next week, same thing happens with another woman and before you know it, you’re sleeping with three women in one week. And since you have realized that sex comes easy, you stop valuing it. It becomes something you expect from every woman on the very first night you meet her and if you meet a good one who doesn’t want to give it up on the first night, you walk away to another tree where the fruits are lower and more accessible. You even become too lazy to go on an actual date because your objective is to get laid and you know you can and will get laid by someone without even having to buy her a bottle of Malta or Smirn Off Ice. Soon, you find yourself thinking you should fuck any woman you have some sort of chemistry… L...

The Internet sphere of Cameroon has experienced a surge of viral content on social media over the past couple of weeks. Most of the viral content serve to stir up emotions or create an alert and with such content, people don’t question what they are told simply because emotions are involved. It is really simple; because it feels true that makes it true. The question on the minds and lips of everyone is; “ How do I know what is true online?” Social Media is a very fertile ground for conspiracies, propaganda and hoaxes. So much information is being circulated and made available on social networks and this nurtures the phenomena known as confirmation bias which is the urge to believe only things that only confirm what you already believe to be true, among users of these networks. We human beings have a very strong inclination to believe what favors us, even if it is clearly unrealistic. We just may ask: “Why spoil a good story?” In the social media era with conspiracies...